Insensitivity Abounds

Why do people feel the need to point out to you that you don't have kids yet? I know that very well, thank you very much. Yet certain acquaintances of ours feel the need to mention this fact to us every time we see them and the problem is they are just acquaintances. We have begun telling a lot of our closer friends, but how do you tell an acquaintance - "hey, by the way please don't remind me that I don't have kids - I've been trying for almost 2 years." I don't need to be continually reminded that there are people my age in the community who are on number 2 or 3. I don't need the topic of conversation at every social event to be who is expecting, how everyone is feeling and how many of their clothes they have grown out of. I know I was probably like some of those people before, not realizing how insensitive and stupid things we say are and it is a trait I am definitely working hard to overcome, whether it is about having children, jobs, religious practices or anything else. I am trying to come up with a response that I can share with the random insensitive comments we receive, but so far nothing. And the most frusterating thing is I feel like I am starting to avoid situations where I feel like this will come up - and that is just annoying. I feel like I want to be on this mission now to awaken people to their actions, but at the same time I don't want to be the one everyone feels bad for and stops talking while in the room - so I just avoid at the moment, which I know is not healthy, but what else can I do?