Infertility Vent

Can I just vent for a moment...Why do people feel the need to consciously or not throw infertility in people's faces? I ran into a high school classmate in Chicago when I was in the park with Adira. They asked if this was my first child, to which the answer is yes for any of you not keeping track. She then proceeded to ask me how many years I've been married. What is the benefit of that question? I answer 5 to which you can then think I'm not "jewish" enough for waiting that long to have a child or maybe I wasn't waiting and you just reminded me of that fact (while you walk around with your 4 year old). Seriously, what did that question accomplish?

If we want to put such a value on people having children, and hopefully raising them to be inspiring members of the jewish community, we need to support that ideal not push it down. Those of us who have dealt with, and continue to deal with, primary or secondary infertility put a tremendous value on having children. We wake up at ungodly hours of the morning to get to our doctor's appointments before going into work. We allow are arms to become pin cushions. We learn on oranges how to inject ourselves with drugs. We spend thousands of dollars before having the opportunity to pay for day school tuition. Please don't look down on me for only having one child - I'd happily have more. Please don't calculate how long it takes me to have a child - I know the math all too well. Just say something nice about my daughter and let me be proud of the fact that she is sharing the world with you and your family.