Red or Green

Don't you sometimes wish your belly button was actually a light? Ok maybe I'm just crazy that way. I decided though that it would be really great if your belly button would let you know stuff about what's going on inside these crazy bodies of ours. Red - nothing happening - no ovulating or baby - depending on the time of the month. Green - get going you have some baby making to do or need to see a doctor because there is already a baby inside. None of this peeing on a stick every day to check fertility levels, or spitting on a "fern" reader. No waiting at the end, just instant answers. So I shared this idea with Aaron and he had one issue. Though red usually is negative and green is positive when you think of spaces red is usually occupied and green is vacant. So would the green light mean there is a baby or that the womb is vacant? So now people would get confused and start second guessing their belly button light and that's not helpful for anyone. So I guess we just need to put up with the system we have and come up with another use for the belly button. Any suggestions?

Mother's Day Reflections

As I "celebrate" my second monther's day, I must take a moment to pause for everyone out their wishing to be first time, second, third or more times around mothers. As a society I think we are becoming more aware, and maybe even sensitive, to primary infertility. However, I think there is still a large lack of awareness for secondary infertility. Many people are fortunate to have 1, maybe 2, children without any medical intervention, and then for a variety of reasons might no longer be able to conceive on their own. Many people know they can't conceive on their own and will need medical intervention for anytime they want children. And here is the kicker - no one thinks you have an issue - we are quick to judge if someone doesn't have any children that maybe they are having issues - but we don't think about it after they have one. For us we must deal with the same struggles we dealt with the first time around - when to go to the doctor, what to tell people, where can we save a little more money from to make this work? I am ecstatic to be able to hug my daughter and celebrate this hallmark day with her. However, in the back of my mind there is always that thought will mother's day be more than 1 for me sometime soon?

To all the mother's out there - whether you got to this point naturally or with medical help - may you always see the joy and love your child/ren bring you. For those waiting to be mothers - I hope your prays are answered speedily and by next mother's day you will be holding a precious bundle in your hands.