Are we there yet?

The age old question that we would always ask our parents when traveling somewhere - Are we there yet? We were impatient, ready to get out of the car, plane or train, anxiously awaiting the next part of our adventure. We didn't comprehend how annoying this was to our parents, because all we knew, at that point, was we didn't want to be in our current location. With infertility you get to play the parent you dream of becoming. You are faced with various forms of the question are we there yet on a regular basis. The passed along comments - I'm surprised they don't have kids yet, haven't they been married long enough. The introductions - its just the two of them with a pause at the end, the general comments of everyone has a kid with the unspoken question why don't you. The hardest part is I'm sure I used to play this game also - the did you here who is pregnant know with the unspoken understanding that others are not, or wondering in surprise whether out-loud or silently what's the deal with this couple or that couple. We take for granted that our journeys will be short and always lead us directly to the great adventure at the end, whether it is a childhood trip to Disney or the welcoming of a baby in your family. However, for many, the road is much longer and fraught with so many more obstacles. We ask ourselves are we there yet and we are asked by others are you there yet. If only we could really see it through our parents eyes and recognize that they were making the best possible decisions they could to share with us a great adventure at the end. If we trusted them maybe our impatience would have been relieved, if we could see the road through there eyes, maybe we would have never questioned. We think we grow out of this habit, however, do we really? We might stop using the words are we there yet but we still look around and question other people's lives, question the road they are on, wondering when they might reach the end. We must strive to remember their road is different than ours, and just hope that everyone reaches there adventure.